Don't you think it's strange how we seem to interchange "always" to mean "regardless of anything else".
"Always" is a synonym for "forever", it means something will be lasting, it will be there constantly for the foreseeable future.
"Always" doesn't mean "anything", "everything" or "whatever the circumstances".
Perhaps for some people it does. When Whitney sang "I will always love you" she probably did mean it in a "regardless of the circumstances, my love will be felt towards you" sort of way- but is that really what always is?
Call me a cynic, a pessimist, even an idiot- but I don't see how always can be interchangeable for such things as "regardless of the circumstances".
"I'll always be there for you." Is a well used statement and whilst it has the best of the recipients interests at heart (or I should at least hope so) it's an extremely difficult promise to maintain.
What I find tends to happen with "always" (from a personal perspective) is pressure. Pressure to give. Pressure to maintain. Pressure to succeed. If I say I will "always" be there, then I won't sleep when I'm worried you might need me until I think you're okay to be left alone, I'll turn up the notification sound so I wake up if you call me, I'll continue to pester you when you're acting odd to find out what's up- it becomes a task, a massive concern, a responsibility that I can't let go of.
This pressure doesn't come from me literally stating I "promise" to be there for you, but from giving myself an unending amount of time. "Always" is "forever".
Likewise if I were to say "I will always love you" then decide I don't love you, does that make me a liar? Does that make me less of a person for going back on my statement? Or is it just "natural" to fall out of love?
You tell me.
"Always" is a synonym for "forever", it means something will be lasting, it will be there constantly for the foreseeable future.
"Always" doesn't mean "anything", "everything" or "whatever the circumstances".
Perhaps for some people it does. When Whitney sang "I will always love you" she probably did mean it in a "regardless of the circumstances, my love will be felt towards you" sort of way- but is that really what always is?
Call me a cynic, a pessimist, even an idiot- but I don't see how always can be interchangeable for such things as "regardless of the circumstances".
"I'll always be there for you." Is a well used statement and whilst it has the best of the recipients interests at heart (or I should at least hope so) it's an extremely difficult promise to maintain.
What I find tends to happen with "always" (from a personal perspective) is pressure. Pressure to give. Pressure to maintain. Pressure to succeed. If I say I will "always" be there, then I won't sleep when I'm worried you might need me until I think you're okay to be left alone, I'll turn up the notification sound so I wake up if you call me, I'll continue to pester you when you're acting odd to find out what's up- it becomes a task, a massive concern, a responsibility that I can't let go of.
This pressure doesn't come from me literally stating I "promise" to be there for you, but from giving myself an unending amount of time. "Always" is "forever".
Likewise if I were to say "I will always love you" then decide I don't love you, does that make me a liar? Does that make me less of a person for going back on my statement? Or is it just "natural" to fall out of love?
You tell me.
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